March 18th, 2018

Five Years Out

I cannot believe I never posted this video on this site after I made it, back in December 2016 to memorialize the fifth anniversary of Roberto’s passing.

But better late than never.

January 7th, 2018

Roberto on Vizify

I was looking on an old external drive and found Roberto’s old Vizify pages. Thought you’d enjoy checking them out.

November 4th, 2017

Pretending to Listen…

You know how sometimes when you pick up the phone when someone is in the middle of leaving a message and the answering machine just keeps recording? That’s what happened a few years ago when Roberto was in the hospital. He called one Saturday morning to update me on when he might be getting out of the hospital. We had already planned an out of town trip so I was hoping he would be out in time for that.

This message ensued. I shared it with a mutual friend after his death and she, knowing both me and Roberto very well, wisely commented,

If it was important enough for you to say it, it was important enough for him to pretend to listen!

You can literally hear his impatience building as I prattled on about the mismatched kitchen appliances.

March 31st, 2015

Sleep Sweetly

February 16th, 2015

A Vacation Visit

A nice little bench under a big oak tree provided great shade and privacy at the grave site. Of course, I usually plop down in front of Robo’s headstone and often lie in there, face up, as if willing myself into the grave with him.

September 15th, 2013

Vox Robo

I wanted to share some voice mails that I’d kept over the years from when I was working nights. Right before I retired last September, I made sure I downloaded all the voice mail messages I had in my voice messages folder; most of them were, of course, from Roberto. He called pretty much like clockwork around 10:55 PM each night to place his dinner order. I miss those calls, I miss him checking on me and asking me how my night was going, but most of all I miss coming home to him at night.

And this one, my favorite, from September 13, 2011. He was in the hospital in this one, working on successful transfers after weeks confined to the bed. Being able to go home depended on how well he could move around, transfer, shave and do other things after being in the bed for so long. A good day and an upbeat message!

May 7th, 2013

Happy 65th

This would have been your 65th birthday, dearest Roberto. But you live on in my heart so … let’s have cake. Miss you so much.

May 6th, 2013

Memorial Butterfly Release

Family and friends gathered on Sunday, May 5, 2013, for a memorial butterfly release in memory of Roberto and what would have been his 65th birthday on Tuesday, May 7. Among those giving presentations were his sister, Linda Herrera Johnson; her husband, Jose; brothers Manuel and Federico; nephew Federico Jr.; and spouse (me), Joni Mueller. Enjoy the video. The butterfly release (24 Monarchs, plus three for individual release by the siblings) is toward the very end.

March 30th, 2013

Butterfly Memorial, May 5, 2013

I am putting together a memorial for Roberto’s 65th birthday and in honor of the fact that his grave marker came in earlier this year. I have invited friends and family to gather at Woodlawn Garden of Memories on Sunday, May 5 at 10:30 a.m. for a remembrance and a butterfly release. I have ordered two dozen Texas mix butterflies from Vibrant Wings, and Roberto’s brother will play some music. Friends and family are welcome to say a few words in remembrance. Afterward, we will have lunch at a nearby restaurant.

March 25th, 2012

My Hero, 1994

One of my all time favorite photos of Roberto. This was taken at a Big Law party, 1994.